The wedding wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t as awesome as I’d wanted it to be. As you know, my mom didn’t come to Philly to be with me on my wedding day. Other mishaps included our ceremony pianist not showing up, the dj being so bad that we asked him to leave and I broke my (dead) gramma’s ring!
The pianist is a friend of ours and one of my coworkers. He skipped out Friday night and didn’t return until Tuesday. He lost his job for no call no show at work. He hasn’t even spoken to me even though I’ve said hello when I’ve seen him. I did get a text from him that said “sorry forgive me” but I didn’t respond to it. He should at least apologize in person for screwing us on ceremony music. We ended up playing the songs on cd, which was not nearly as good as it was on piano. 
Very sad. I was disappointed because I couldn’t even hear the song as I walked down the aisle or as I walked out of the sanctuary.
My dad had brought me 4 rings that were my grandmothers. There was one that matched my other jewelry and I really liked it so I decided to wear it. One of the times I went to the bathroom (and had my ladies hold my dress up for me) the ring broke. It hit the porcelain and literally broke in half. This was moments before the ceremony, very sad!
The dj thought he was the wedding planner. He tried to tell my aunt what to do with the food and told us the way we wanted the tables to come up to the food table was “tacky”. He flirted shamelessly with my married aunts and groped the women in my wedding party. It was disgusting! He tried to stage us for our cake cutting photographs and it pissed me off. We had a professional photographer for that. He was also not amused by the dj resetting us. gah! Such a mess.
However, we both looked amazing and we both had a fantastic time. We are so grateful that our friends were able to come into town to help us out. Having awesome friends with us made all the crappy stuff not so bad. Hanging out with people we hadn’t seen in years was awesome! Our ceremony was good, but not as awesome as our first wedding last year. There was still too much religion in this one for our liking, but we did it. Our guests really seemed to enjoy the ceremony, the snacks and the great company. I had several family members come up to visit and it was so awesome having them here. Nothing is better than having loved ones near during a crazy time aka special occasion. Our photo shoot was great! Our decorations were gorgeous. The food was TASTY! In all, it was a success. We got over the bumps in the road and the show went on! Because I know you are dying for photos.. see below.
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I think a few people in our lives don’t seem to realize that this is the “real” marriage. Yes we are participating in a hetero privilege and I don’t usually like to do that, but we really want to be united this way. If, for whatever reason, we hadn’t been able to get his documents to be legally male, we would have done the commitment ceremony though. It’s just important to us to have a ritual, I suppose. I still feel guilty about all the other people that I know and love who won’t be getting legally married to their significant others because of the laws in our country. I truly hope that at some point, everyone will have ALL of the same rights. That’s what I fight for!
